A Letter to the Readers

Hello, readers of Jewell’s Gems.

My name is Jennifer Jewell, and I’m honored to be Sifu Jewell’s wife.

I am taking over this post so that I can tell all of you just how important Sifu Jewell is to me and what he’s done for my life. You may learn a thing or two about him that you didn’t know, but, first and foremost:

He deserves all the love and support you, his readers, can give him.

Here’s why.

Sifu Jewell came from humble beginnings. He fought hard against the discouragement his family bestowed upon him.  He was constantly being told that if he tries anything new,  he might become disappointed if he’s not successful.  It was this nonsense that made him decide to try anyway and work extra hard to be successful.  It instilled in him a work ethic like I’ve never seen before. He became focused and determined to prove the naysayers wrong.

Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t.  But he always tried.

He took writing classes all four years of high school and into college.  A few of his pieces were published in his high school literary magazine and in our college newspaper.  When I met him in 1993, he would let me read what he was writing. It was good, even back then. And it was diverse.  He could write about anything.

Sifu Jewell paid his way through college.  He worked long hours at a few places just to pay tuition. He took the public transit bus to class. Unfortunately, it took him a little longer than his peers because he ended up getting married (sorry, not to me, I’m wife #2) and raising children. His dreams suffered due to lack of time.  He had a family to take care of now. But he never forgot his goal.

The writing took a back seat, but he trained in the martial arts whenever he could.  He met his sifu in 2001 and trained with him at 2:00am, after his overnight security shift, several times a week.  The voices of his discouraging family kept repeating in his head, “it’s better not to try at all than to try and become disappointed.”  That was his fuel.  He made it his mission to prove them wrong. He pushed himself to learn quickly and steadily moved up the ranks of Wing Chun. After 17 years, he has earned the rank of 3rd Degree Black Sash.

All of this without the support of his family or friends.

It’s funny; I have always felt that it was my job to take care of him, no matter how far away I was. Boy, did I fall short.

He would make time for me whenever he had an hour or two to spare, which was not often.  Sometimes we’d go a few years without hanging out. Being in another state made it hard to see each other, but we still kept in touch.

23 years after we first met and we finally figured out that we should be a couple, he was working two jobs and putting himself through school trying to finish college.  He was divorced by this time and his children had grown, so he was pouring his heart into writing papers and doing research.  I was proud of him for not forgetting his goals.  I felt like I was interfering with his studies, and I promised him that I wouldn’t take up his time.  His education was just as important to me as it was to him, and I swore I would do anything I could to help him achieve his degree.  He finished his Bachelor’s Degree in 2015 and went straightaway to his Master’s Degree. He graduated with a Master of Arts in Exercise and Sports Psychology in 2017.  And he was working full time at the hospital.

Again, all this without the support of his family or friends.

He’s only ever wanted to do two things in his life:

  1.  To teach Wing Chun
  2.  To be a famous writer

Fast-forward to now:  he is a published writer, but he’s not in the ranks of J.K. Rowling or Mark Twain.  He’s getting there, but he needs your help. Take a chance and read his poetry anthology, As Winter Fades: Reflections In The Pond.  Those poems are the last 25 years of love, loss, heartache, whimsy, rage, despair, happiness, and childlike innocence that he’s gone through.  Those poems are from his life, not just some junk he made up to sell books. And the photos were chosen based on the mood of the poem they are with.  Soon, he will have published his second book, The Wisdom of Wing Chun.  He explains how studying this internal martial art has played a key role in his life. It’s very informative and well-written, and it’s not a common topic. He’s also working on a few horror stories that are really disturbing, but in a good way, especially if you like the horror genre.

Come take a Wing Chun class with him if you’re in Baltimore.  He’s a really good teacher.  He’s patient and encouraging and easy to understand.

Check out his YouTube tutorials.  We’ve been shooting these for almost a year and they are good demonstrations of what the art of Wing Chun looks like in theory and application.

Finally, if you don’t feel like close combat is your thing, take a private Tai Chi lesson.  Yes, boys and girls, HE TEACHES THAT ALSO!!!  And he’s really good.  He was tapped to lead a class of mixed ages at a church function last year, and they all loved him.  He kept getting complements about how well he taught and how informative the demonstration was.

So what has he done for me and my life?  He’s shown me what it’s like to be truly in love with someone. He’s taught me that it’s okay to cry. He’s taught me that it’s normal for someone who loves you to do something nice for you (whether it’s taking your dish to the sink without asking or cheering you up with a box of Western fries) just because they want to, without expecting something in return. He’s taught me to laugh at myself. He’s taught me to love my body. He’s taught me that a good partnership isn’t about winning battles in a war. He’s taught me how to let things go, especially toxic people who remind me that I’m not good enough for them and that I’ll never meet their expectations no matter what I do. He’s taught me how to be curious about things and to never stop learning. He’s taught me to not blame myself for things that really aren’t my fault or out of my control.  He’s taught me that what I went through with my first marriage was not normal. He’s made me incredibly happy, even though I struggle with my adjustments. It can’t be easy for him, but he’s never given up on me. That, my friends, is true love.

Dear readers, this is my testimony to why Sifu Jewell deserves your attention and support.  He has a lot to offer the world.  He’s kind and smart and funny (most of the time, or at least he thinks he is), and he is dedicated to his craft.  He will share his ideas and knowledge about topics that will provoke the best conversations.  He’s open-minded and honest, and will always look at both sides of a debate. But best of all, he’s the most considerate, loving and caring husband and father anyone could ever want. The children and I are blessed to share his life, and we love him more and more every day.

Spread the word to everyone you know. Sifu Jewell really is a priceless gem to be treasured and admired. IMG_0375

 

 

 

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What if… What if….What if…?

“What if…?”

Anyone who has attended or given any type of martial arts demonstration or class has probably heard someone in the class ask the teacher after demonstrating a technique, “Okay, but what if the guy attacking me does this (…or that)?”  Sometimes this question comes from a student’s genuine desire to learn as much as they possibly can.

More often than not, however, it seems like this question comes from a desire to challenge the person who is teaching. They are trying to discredit the teacher or the type of martial art they are teaching. It’s as if what they are really saying with their what if question is, “Alright, sure that technique will work when you tell the guy what to throw at you and he cooperates. But what about when a real attacker comes at you? You’re not going to know what to do and won’t be able defend yourself when all the moves aren’t choreographed because this whole martial arts thing isn’t realistic….”

No, you can’t predict everything. Truthfully, you can’t predict anything. Not in martial arts, and certainly not in life. We train for possibilities. We do our best to be prepared for whatever comes our way, but ultimately we are never completely prepared because we can’t see into the future.  We can take what we’ve learned and hope that it will serve us well if we find ourselves in the very situation we prepared for

One way we do this is by learning and following certain principles. Most of my martial arts teachers (or at last the ones I learned the most from) taught me the principles behind why and how a technique works. When I know the principle and application I can take one technique and make it become ten or more. I don’t get lost in contemplating, “what if the guy in front of me throws a jab instead of a hook or a kick instead of a punch?” I am prepared to respond to the incoming force because I have practiced both specific techniques and being on a state of relaxed awareness. Although, “relaxed” could be a debatable choice of words if you are “relaxed” at the same time your adrenaline is pumping.

My point is this:  I am prepared for whatever “what if ” comes my way without running down every possibly in my head during a confrontation. I’m simply ready. Maybe there is something I haven’t thought of and didn’t prepare for. At this point I can’t worry about that. If someone tries to attack me, I’m going to know what to do because I’ve trained my body and my brain to react involuntarily to whatever is thrown at me.  Another term for this might be, “knee-jerk reaction.”

It is the same with life. We do our best to be prepared by purchasing health insurance, car insurance, life insurance, renter’s insurance and all other types of insurance just in case something happens. We do this even though we drive as carefully as we can to avoid accidents, eat right and exercise to avoid illness, and save money in case we become suddenly unemployed. Of course, not everyone does the things I’ve just mentioned. but you get the idea.  Most of us do our best to be prepared for the unexpected or unfortunate events that pop up in our lives from time to time. Try as we might, though, we can’t be prepared for everything.

And to some extent I say, why bother? While we should be as ready as we can for the unexpected we can’t lose ourselves in all of the what if possibilities. At this point we are obsessing about the future and not being present in the moment. The ability to live in the moment not only makes one a better martial artist and athlete, but also serves as a way to lead a better and more balanced life.

My wife struggles with the “what if” every day: “What if you get injured at work or someone pulls a knife on you?” “What if they don’t hire me full time?” “What if someone else makes a better offer and we lose the house we wanted?”  She’s a planner, and usually has a backup plan, but not always.  I tell her to just enjoy the moments and stop worrying so much about something that may or may not happen.

Some what if scenarios should really be ignored. When I was a young man and expressed an interest in doing anything worthwhile that may take a little more effort than most people or seemed beyond what others assumed I was capable of accomplishing, my  family members would say things to me such as, “What if it doesn’t work out?” or “I don’t want you to be disappointed of you fail.”

These well- meaning family members were really sending the message, “I don’t want you to be disappointed WHEN you fail.” Sometimes they would have long talks with me trying to talk me out of whatever goal I may have set for myself. In my youth these speeches had their desired effect. I got it. They didn’t want me to get hurt, even though they probably hurt me more by discouraging my ambition. It has taken me a very long time to overcome this mindset.

Today people may still ask me things like, ” What if you fail or you can’t do it?” Another question I could ask in return is, “What if I succeed?” The only way to find out the answer to either question is to  follow through on my plan of action. I refuse to get caught up in the “what if” while I’m actually doing.

 

Give Them Their Money’s Worth

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately. This is because I find myself having to do a number of things I never thought I would need or want to do in my lifetime. These things include self- promotion and setting prices for the martial arts classes and seminars I am about to start teaching. Even though I have been giving private classes here and there for some time, as well as assisting my Sifu with his classes, I am about to step things up quite a bit by offering more classes in more areas or venues which will include churches and rec centers.

For the most part, money wasn’t a big concern in the past for me. Even though I did charge a fee most of the time, it was never very much. I loved teaching so much I would  do it for practically free. Of course, my own Sifu would have some words for me about not charging or undercharging my students. He believes that I’ve worked hard to develop my skills and understanding in Wing Chun and martial arts in general, and that I should not short- change myself. I’ve already put a lot of time and money into my training and it is time I made a little money in return.

The question I need to start asking myself now is, “How much do I charge?” I don’t ask myself this question because I want to get rich from teaching kung-fu. I ask this question because I want to give my students their money’s worth. In the past I’ve had difficulty finding the right balance to say I was giving my students what they were paying for. More often I would give too much rather than not enough.

Teaching someone too much too soon can present a number of problems. For one, when learning a martial art there is usually a natural order of progression one must follow. This is to avoid injury as well as make sure the student has a solid understanding of basic concepts before moving on to more complicated concepts and techniques. My Sifu would often use the analogy of building a house when it comes to learning the martial arts. A house needs to be built from a strong foundation. In the martial arts this means learning and becoming proficient with the basics of that particular art and advancing from there.

Another problem with teaching someone more than they are ready for is that, besides not fully understanding what is being taught, they may undervalue what is being passed on to them. Related to this issue is undercharging a person because, once again, they may not appreciate what is being taught. They think that because they are not being asked to pay a large sum of money, what they are learning is of little value to them.  I’ve been guilty of this myself in the past.

Almost a decade ago a former coworker whom I will call Tom (not his real name) came to my apartment so we could talk about martial arts and get some training in. After our first workout together he offered to teach me some of the things he learned from his Shaolin training. I was tempted and let him teach me a few things. I never followed up with Tom on his offer to train regularly with him. I figured out years later that this was probably for two reasons. One was ego. By this point I was coming along in Wing Chun and had been training in martial arts for most of my life. I didn’t think I needed to become someone’s student when I was being encouraged to teach from the instructors I was already training with. Like I said, I was letting me ego get in the way. It definitely wasn’t a money issue. Tom was offering to teach me for FREE!!!

This, believe it or not, was also part of my decision not to follow up and learn what this man had to offer. I had difficulty believing he had anything of value to offer me if he wasn’t charging me anything. I see now the fallacy of my thinking. The origins of such a thought process more than likely come from growing up in a capitalist society. Most people I know probably still follow this same line of logic. This is why I will no longer teach anyone for free (except for my children and close relatives). I’ve given free classes to people or classes at highly reduced rates and there was little or no appreciation in most cases.

I’ve come to the conclusion that people don’t appreciate anything that is simply handed to them. Often times, people are expecting a catch or fine print when a free offer is made. They find it hard to believe that anyone would want to offer a beneficial service without repayment unless it’s a scam or just crappy service.  They expect the negative because it’s happened to them already before (once bitten, twice shy) or they know someone that it’s happened to.

I believe that those who train under me should earn their ranks through hard work and not high membership fees. When I teach for free, I can usually tell right away who is serious about studying hard and who doesn’t really care. And, like me so many years ago, there are a few very serious students who work their butts off to learn and move through the ranks but are dirt poor. I don’t want to ask for payment, but if I don’t charge something they may not truly value what is being passed on to them.

On the other hand I wouldn’t want to charge such high fees that it prevents people from being able to look into what I have to offer. Many yoga or tai chi schools will allow a brand new student to take their first class for free, just to see if they like what is happening there and if they feel it’s a good fit.  For example, my wife won’t pay for a yoga class without doing some field research: go to a free class and decide if it’s the type of yoga she wants to study that won’t hurt her body, that fits into her time schedule, and is affordable for folks on a tight budget.

I suppose in the end it is a balancing act that I will continually need to adjust.

One thing I know for sure is that I will always do my best to give my students their money’s worth. I will do this by not holding back knowledge when they are ready to move on do the next level and always doing my best to answer any questions that come my way. I will not delay a students progress in order to keep getting money from them just as I will not attempt to have my student attempt any technique or exercise before they have developed the proper foundation.

The Paradox of Non-Violence in the Martial Arts

For the longest time I refused to teach children other than my own or close family friends. The reasons for this decision varied. One main reason is that, if I were to open a school, I did not want my place of business turning into a babysitting service. I was also concerned that my approach to teaching martial arts may not agree with the values of the child’s parents. Parents today seem a bit more lenient. Martial arts classes are typically a place where discipline is instilled and excuses are not accepted. Perhaps the biggest reason I’ve held back on teaching younger people is because I wasn’t sure how to teach the important concept of non-violence while also showing them the best ways to inflict pain and do damage to another human being. Point sparring and forms are good exercise and good for tournaments, but it is not what I train for or primarily teach. While forms are still a major part of training, what I teach leans more towards combat or self defense.

Recently an opportunity opened up for me to begin teaching at a local rec center. For me to only teach those over 18 would mean giving up quite a few things, the most obvious being income. However, that should almost never be a deciding factor in a decision like this. There are many ways to make money. I’d also be giving up the chance to stretch myself as a teacher and go a little beyond my comfort zone. Teaching in any field gives us a chance to deepen our knowledge of a subject. Finally, I felt like it would be selfish of me to deny young students, who were disciplined enough and eager to train, just because of their age. Some children are wiser beyond their years than others, proving that age is just a number. It would not be fair to judge a student based on their age. Just from attending tournaments and training sessions, I’ve seen that some elementary or middle school aged children are more disciplined and more proficient in their study than their adult counterparts.

When I was just out of high school I accepted any job I was offered–nothing illegal, of course. Then I came to the conclusion I only wanted jobs that made some sort of difference in the world. If I could make money while contributing to society, that seemed ideal to me. This opportunity at the rec center is a chance to make a difference, not just teach people how to fight.

I believe I will be contributing in a number of ways. These ways include the obvious benefits of martial arts training such as helping people get healthier, building their self- confidence, increasing their self -discipline and giving them the tools they need to defend themselves from violent encounters. Beyond all this is what I perceive as the paradox of non-violence in the martial arts.

While debating on whether or not to lower the age cut-off of my students, it occurred to me that teaching the martial arts is actually the perfect vehicle to teach non-violence to the younger generation. With all of the emphasis on sport or combat today I feel like much of the philosophy behind the martial arts has become lost. Thankfully, it has not all become completely forgotten.

I believe that the more a person is able to defend themselves, the less they will feel the need to fight out of ego. There was a scene in the original The Karate Kid movie where young Daniel and Mr. Miyagi are in a row boat training and talking. Mr. Miyagi asks Daniel why he wants to learn how to fight. Daniel answers with, “So I won’t have to fight.” For me, I would say that this is one of the most important scenes in the movie. It expresses one of the most honorable and ethical reasons for learning martial arts.

Like many people, I began learning martial arts because I was picked on in school. I wanted to be able to stand up for myself and defend myself. I was successful in this endeavor. As a side benefit I found I developed a higher level of confidence and was generally a happier person than I had been in a long time. My wife has told me that over the years when we would talk on the phone, she noticed that each time we spoke I had more confidence and that I wasn’t self-degrading anymore. That confidence developed from training in the martial arts. I was changing from the skinny shy kid to the healthy confident adult.

There was also another benefit I found extremely freeing. I no longer felt the need to prove myself. Once I reached a certain level of skill, I knew full well what I was capable of in most situations. Fear of looking someone in the face or looking weak in front of others didn’t concern me. I came to the realization that in the past I may have become angry and wanted fight because of a fear reaction. I was afraid I might get myself beat up or or look weak on front of others. It’s sort of ironic. The more someone threatens me now, the calmer I become.

This is why I decided that I didn’t mind dropping my age requirement. It would give me a chance to share these skills I’ve learned through martial arts training in order to contribute to creating a more peaceful world. Learning to be a more peaceful person through training in self-defense skills is what I call the paradox of non- violence in the martial arts and something I would like to pass on to the next generation.

A Few Words On Tradition

There are so many Wing Chun practitioners who discuss the difference between modified and traditional (or classical) Wing Chun. This isn’t a conversation that takes place just among practitioners of Wing Chun, it is a conversation that can take place among martial artists of almost any style. Similar conversations about tradition take place in families, and they talk about almost anything that has been passed down for generations. Some family members may want to stick with certain traditions that have been in the family for generations,  while others may want to “move with the times” and do something different. Of course, there may be some who don’t care either way (put an angel or a star on top of the tree, or skip the Christmas tree all together – it doesn’t matter to them).

Several years ago Sifu Bill, my Ba Gua and Tai Chi teacher, told me an interesting story:

A family is celebrating Thanksgiving, and the wife cuts off the head and hind end of the turkey (in most versions it is a ham, but I think I was actually told this story fairly close to Thanksgiving so this is how I remember it). The husband is confused about why his wife just wasted perfectly good meat and asks her about this. She explains that it is how her mom taught her to cook and that this is she had always prepared the meal. He decides her answer is acceptable, but still curious about how this tradition got started. He calls his mother-in-law and asks her about this tradition. She gives him the same answer– this was how her mom had taught her. The husband decides to let it go for a while. Then, at dinner with the whole family at the table, the husband comments on what an interesting tradition his wife’s family has in cutting off the ends of the turkey. The wife’s grandmother speaks up and says, “It has nothing to do with tradition. When I was young and teaching my daughter to cook we couldn’t afford a pot big enough for the whole turkey.”

The point of the story is not about whether or not tradition is good or bad. The point is that so many people follow tradition blindly without ever questioning or looking into its origins. I personally do not think looking into an art’s origins is disrespectful. I think if one truly loves their art they should have a natural curiosity about its history.

There may be a few people who disagree with me. They may view this type of questioning as being difficult. They may even see it as challenging the legitimacy or practicality of the art. They may think the person with these types of questions is trying to say that traditions are outdated and not as effective as the modified approach. One thing I’ve always wondered about was if the yi chi kim yeung ma was always exactly the way I learned it from my first class or if it got modified from some other version because of all the practitioners who traveled on the boats during a certain period in the arts history.

In truth it probably doesn’t matter much as I’m going to continue using the stance I’ve been taught either way. Personally, I use what works for me. Traditional or modified doesn’t make a difference. I do enjoy partaking in traditions (be it in martial arts or other areas of life), but I also don’t believe on following tradition blindly.

 

 

Let’s Take A Deeper Look…

Over the past several weeks, I have noticed a disturbing pattern in thinking when talking to the people around me. Most people don’t scratch far enough below the surface of a subject in order to develop a truly informed and educated opinion on a subject. While I believe that people are entitled to their opinions, I also believe that people should not jump to conclusions before looking into a subject; instead, they need to develop a true understanding of their research. Before going on, I must admit that I have been guilty of committing the same type of uninformed bias from time to time. On occasion, it may be rooted in a simple lack of interest in the subject matter. Sometimes it’s a lack of time to do any real research. When this happens, I try to develop the ability to admit where my knowledge may be lacking and reserve judgment for a later point in time.

As stated earlier, there were several conversations that I’ve had recently that caused me to make this observation about the need to look deeper into a subject before dismissing the information I was getting or forming an opinion based on partial information. In my first example I was speaking with a young lady about the book Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. She claimed she couldn’t get into the book because it was a bit too “New Age” for her taste. Knowing she was a devout Christian, I could understand her not being into anything resembling something that was New Age. After all, the book did appear to be talking about numerology and birthdays as an indicator of success in certain fields. However, by the end of the first chapter you realize that this talk about birthdays has more to do with logic than anything mystical. An example he uses in the book refers to sports teams and the age requirements. A person born just after the cut-off date will have to wait another year to join a particular team or league. This will give that person a whole extra year to mature and practice their sport. The same holds true when enrolling a child in public school. Nothing mystical about that, nor does this have anything to do with numerology or New Age thinking. One has to keep reading the book (which I do highly recommend) to see this.

Something else I may recommend to people is an investment app called Acorns. I like this app because you don’t need thousands of dollars to begin investing. You only need a minimum of five dollars ($5) to get started. However, you also need to have a basic understanding about how the stock market and investing actually works. My friend told me that he put five dollars into the app, but that he cancelled the app and stopped using it because when he went back there was still only five dollars in the account. Of course he still had only five dollars,  because he hadn’t put any more in! I saw something even worse than this when I read a review for Acorns in the App Store. One person complained that they put ten dollars in and only had seven dollars when they checked their account a few days later. This review didn’t influence my decision one way or another about the app because it seemed to me that the person who wrote this review didn’t do their homework and has no idea how the stock market works. You’re going to gain some money, and you’re going to lose some money.  The stock market depends heavily on what day of the year it is as well as the current state of the economy. You also need to put money into it on a regular basis, just as you would do with a savings account, to get the most benefit. Just five dollars a week would serve this purpose.

One final example comes from a letter to the editor I read many years ago. Someone wrote a letter to the editor (I believe it was in an issue of Black Belt magazine) expressing their disappointment in Rickson Gracie doing an instructional video on choking someone out after he said he would not do any instructional videos. The problem with the person writing to the magazine was that they based their opinion of the video and Mr. Gracie by the title alone. The video (which I have seen and enjoyed) is a documentary and NOT an instructional video at all.

All of the above examples are of people who form opinions without having a complete picture of what they are speaking on. In the past people have told me that I am too quiet, though my wife would scoff at the notion and heartily disagree.  Other times I’ve been told I ask a lot of questions, which she would absolutely agree with. Both of these judgments of me are true, but they don’t define me. I stay quiet when I’m listening and processing information that I’ve just received, and I ask a lot of questions to learn more. This is because I prefer to have informed opinions. Sometime this means reserving judgment until I’ve had a chance to look a little deeper.

Who Am I Writing My Next Book For?

The next book I am about to put out will be called The Wisdom of Wing Chun. If all goes according to plan it should be released sometime before the end of August. I haven’t committed to an actual date as of yet because I only have about 85% of the rough drafts finished. Also, I still have photos that need to be taken and inserted. Earlier today my wife asked me, “who am I writing this book for?” This is actually I good question, and that has taken me a little time to ponder if I am to answer it with complete honesty (both to you and to myself). At the time I was asked this question I was a bit defensive. My wife loves me more than any woman ever has and only wants the best for me. All my life I have had a tendency to take on too much. In college I worked three jobs for a while as well as being involved in student government and the newspaper, plus kung fu classes two to three times a week on top of that. Fast forward to today: I am working a security job in the evenings, writing this blog, shooting YouTube videos for 9 loyal viewers, teaching martial arts whenever the opportunity arises in addition to my own training, and finally working on completing The Wisdom of Wing Chun. I’m beginning to think my wife, Jen, has a valid point about me taking on too much, but at least it is self-imposed. There was a time when I took on everyone else’s projects and problems and neglected my own. I’ve finally learned to say “NO” to others in order to say “YES” to myself. I’m discovering that now I can’t do everything. at least not all at once, and I need to stop being everything to everyone else, especially people who never return the favor. Nor do I need to! Several days ago I told my wife I was taking a “mental vacation” for one week. This meant no reading, watching documentaries, no working on any of my projects until Monday. This included blogging. The idea was to just relax for a week. This was four days ago. The fact that you’re reading this shows I couldn’t make it an entire week. As an artist and a writer, I need to express myself through the written word. I fear at times I am better with the written word than the spoken word.Writing is my art and my passion, be it poetry, fiction or non-fiction. I’m not writing this book to make money, though it would be nice. I’m not writing this book to show off any expertise, even though I’ve heard several business moguls say that writing a book is the best way to establish yourself as a professional in your field. That isn’t my aim here. There are other ways to establish myself as a martial artist. I’m writing this book because of a need to express myself, but that only covers why I’m writing this book. The question we started with is, who am I writing this book for? Besides writing for my own artistic need for self expression, who do I want to read my book? Of course, I am hoping friends and family will support me in getting a copy. I am also hoping my own teachers and mentors will want a copy to read so that they can see what an influence they have had on me (and inform me if I’ve done them justice in my writing and in my life). When you read the contents, I am mostly writing this book for students and potential students. I want to pass on lessons that go beyond Wing Chun.A while back I started writing a book called Life Lessons Learned Through Sparring (and I will complete this book at some point). I put a hold on that one because I’ve been focused on Wing Chun lately, and this topic was calling to me more. As an artist, that is the best way I can say it. No, I may not have enough readers to get this book on The New York Times best-seller list or have it make me enough money to quit my day job and move to Rehoboth to live on the beach. That doesn’t always have to be the aim of a writer. If one person reads my book and it touches them in a way that makes a difference in their lives, then I’ve accomplished what I set out do do. I’m writing for the person I’ve never met and may never meet who simply needs to hear what I have to say.